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WEDDINGS

Congratulations, you are planning your dream wedding!

My role as a celebrant is to ensure you have the perfect day. This can be a traditional style or a unique and personal ceremony that reflects your individual and personal preferences. You may want to include something that reflects the cultural heritage of each of you. If there are children from a previous relationship or you already have children together perhaps you would like to include them in your ceremony. Maybe there is a pet that is a vital part of your relationship and you would like to make them a special part of your day too!

Your day will be memorable for all the right reasons, because it is about you, as a couple. I dedicate time getting to know your “story” and to find out about your lives, your values and your ideas, which we use to build a structure to your ceremony. I then sit down to write your own wedding day script, which we can tweak until it is exactly what you want. I can support you in writing your own meaningful vows, and assist with readings, poems and songs which are personal to you both. A copy of your wedding script will also be presented to you both on the day.

Through our consultations, we can discuss any plans and ideas, plus nearer the day we can run through a rehearsal so as to perfect the ceremony and to give you peace of mind.

Your special day will be bringing family and friends together, so whilst I am on hand to help you, you will always have the final say on all aspects of your ceremony to make this a day to be remembered.

It’s important for you to realize that Celebrants are not Registrars so I cannot conduct the legalities on the day. This will involve making an appointment at a Register Office, attended by two witnesses. The exchange of rings, Vows, music, readings and any other special extras, are then saved for the big day.

Below are a few ideas to start you thinking………

Traditional Wedding

A traditional ceremony will usually include an exchange of vows and rings. Ceremonies can be performed in the wedding venue of your choice and by working with a celebrant you are not restricted to using venues already registered for weddings. A traditional wedding ceremony can incorporate songs, readings and the entrance of the bride. So whether you are religious, semi religious, non-religious, or traditional, you have the flexibility to plan your day your way.

 

 

Handfasting

The handfasting ceremony stems from the Celtic traditions and can be incorporated into your ceremony. Originally handfasting was an engagement ritual where the bride and groom were bound together for a year and a day to see if they got on before committing to marriage. Today it is a symbolic ceremony used to unite the couple. A handfasting can use a simple cord or a number of different ribbons representing different aspects of your relationship eg. Red for passion, blue for tranquility, yellow for fun. You can pick the colours and material that best represent you as a couple.

 

Sand Ceremony

This symbolic ceremony represents the merging of two lives. Different coloured sands are combined in a vessel to create a memory of your special day. The celebrant will start the ceremony by pouring sand into the main vessel, this represents the foundation of the marriage. The couple then, simultaneously pour in their coloured sand which merges and becomes inseparable as the new couple. There are variations of this ceremony and can be adapted to suit each couple. It is a great way to include children in your ceremony as they can have their own sand symbolising the part they play in the new union.

 

Unity Candles

The lighting of the Unity Candle represents two lives joining together as one. In this ceremony the couple each have a candle, this symbolizes separate lives, families and friends. When the couple lights the larger central candle in unison, it visually connects the couple, as a union.

 

 

The Wine or Loving Cup Ceremony

The purpose of the Loving Cup Ceremony is for the bride and bridegroom to share their first drink together as wife and husband and to show the coming together of two families. Special words can be added to include family and friends as part of the ceremony. The cup can also be passed down the generations, ensuring happiness and good fortune to all who drink from it.

 

 

Tasting the Four Elements

A ceremony with roots in the Yoruba tradition. Tasting the four elements brings the traditional vow “for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health” to life. The four elements traditionally used are lemon, vinegar, cayenne pepper and honey which represent the sour, the bitter, the hot and the sweet times of marriage. By tasting each of these elements the couple acknowledges that every marriage has difficult times, but together they can weather them and find sweetness that is always present.

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